How to Date a Chinese Woman!

As we all know Chinese women can look incredibly exotic, not only because of their eyes and skin but also because they come from a culture so different from our own. Really and truly, Chinese culture is vastly different from most Western culture types, and this is especially true of the native English-speaking countries such as America, Canada and The United Kingdom.

Bearing all this in mind, we get to the question: ‘does this effect how to date Chinese women?’ After living in China for over eight years and dating Chinese women in my own country, I would have to say that the answer would have to be a definite ‘yes’.

With this in view lets take a look at a few things that will definitely help us date a Chinese woman and not make mistakes which may cost us in one way or another:

Getting A Date

If you are planning on dating a mainland Chinese woman, either in China or in your own country, you may find getting what you ‘think’ is a date is actually not that hard at all. With most Chinese women, going out to dinner is considered a friendly thing to do. It’s actually a huge part of their culture. They may or may not connect it in their mind to romantic/sexual interest from you. You want to take them out, ok, ask (it can be really that simple)!

Generating Attraction

Assuming you followed point one you will now be well on your way, but here’s the more difficult part, getting her to be attracted to you! Attraction can be a complex thing, but after having dated hundreds of Chinese women I can tell you, with Chinese women and the conformity created by Confucian culture, some tried and tested techniques always do the trick…

Here is one that really works well, when she tells you not to do something during the date (and she will), she may suggest she doesn’t like you smoking or drinking or something she wants you to change, reply with a seemingly indifferent response that you will do what you want when you want, but that you are ‘willing to negotiate’ (say that last part with a smile on your face). It’ll surprise you that it will lead to attraction in her if you do this over time, and not as some might think, repulsion.


Getting more intimate with a Chinese female can be tricky because many males think they should follow what they have read about Chinese women being ‘traditional.’ Actually, a lot of what you’ve read before may even hinder you rather than helping you. But leaving that aside, let me teach you a simple ‘bridging technique, ‘I always use:

You may have heard that when you date hot asian girl they are shy and you shouldn’t be too affectionate as it’s not part of their culture. Whereas it is true culturally and historically, the good news is that as a non-Chinese, they will actually expect certain differences and will give you some leeway! I suggest now and then you should touch her upper arm or back when appropriate, particularly when you’re crossing the road with her or some other similar situation.

This will actually give her a sense of protection that’ll lead to more intimacy over time; this is one simple bridging technique that, if combined with some others, can really amp-up her attraction to you and put you ‘in the zone.’

Find out more about how to tell if a chinese woman likes you! and also check-out 7 must know secrets before dating or marrying a Chinese woman, and go to Today!