When you are planning to go on a first date with someone, you are likely going to find yourself feeling just as nervous as you are excited. This is particularly true if you can finally have a first date with someone you have been interested in for a little while.
The fact of the matter is that it can be difficult to avoid placing too much pressure on a first date. It is all good and well to be excited about the prospect of starting something new and meaningful with someone, but you also need to remember that first dates are about getting to know someone to see if they are a good match for you on multiple levels.
Without being too forward, you want to find a way to ask some of your more important questions so that you can properly ascertain if the person you are going out with would be a good match for you. If you aren’t careful, asking direct questions of this nature can make the date feel more like an interview. You want to still be able to have a fun, enjoyable time out with someone while at the same time learning more about who they are as a person.
With that in mind, here are a few things that you can talk about on a first date that will help you to learn more about the person you are out with without putting too much pressure on the situation.
It might sound silly, but talking to someone about whether or not they believe in UFOs can be a great way to learn about a person on a first date. Bring up some UFO news to see how the other person responds. Whether or not a person believes in the existence of UFOs can say a lot about them and how they view the universe.
Furthermore, if you disagree on this point, it can be tough to take the other person seriously on other matters. This is the topic that can be fun to discuss on a first date and that can reveal a great deal about the person you are out with. Even if you disagree on the existence of UFOs, your ability to civilly disagree and discuss this matter can be a good indicator for how you might disagree on other matters down the line.
One of the more general topics that can be quite telling when you are on a first date is music. Even though it isn’t absolutely necessary for you and your potential partner to have the exact same taste in music, you might be surprised to find that those with a true passion for a certain genre can be put off by someone who has a completely opposing taste in music.
If the person you are on a date with enjoys a type of music that you truly don’t care for, consider if it is really a deal-breaker for you. Will you be able to attend concerts together that you will both have a nice time at? Will long car journeys become an irritating situation because you won’t be able to agree on what to listen to?
You might already know to ask a person about their job and career ambitions, but what they choose to do in their time off is also important to get a feel for. The type of hobbies that a person enjoys can tell you a great deal about who they are as a person.
For instance, if they enjoy a hobby that is done at home and is more of a solo activity, they might be a bit more introverted or more of a home-body than you would like. However, if their hobbies and interests tend to take them out of the house and involve certain social aspects, they are likely more of a social butterfly.
You might even find that they enjoy the same sort of hobbies that you do. This can leave some potential for the two of you to take part in your shared interests together, which is something that can contribute to a strong long-term relationship.
When it comes to travel, there tend to be two types of people: those who aspire to see the world and those who would rather just stay closer to home. If you fall into one of these categories, it is important to know whether or not the person you are considering starting a relationship with falls into the same category.
Furthermore, when you find that a person loves to travel, it is likely that they are more adventurous in other aspects of their life as well. It shows a willingness to experience new things and a curiosity about different ways of living life. Those who prefer to avoid travel tend to be more interested in maintaining the status quo. They might be less inclined to try new things and be more confident in their likes and dislikes.
It is also a good idea to get a sense of the other person’s family life when you are on a first date. Learning about how many siblings they have and how close they are to their parents can say a lot about their character. Moreover, you might find that you have some real similarities in this area, meaning that they will be able to relate to where you are coming from in regard to your own family life.